143 Questions To Ask Yourself Before You Die

This is a piece I wrote for a personal development podcast which isn’t online any more called “Go Legendary”. I thought it might fit here — thanks for reading.

Sometimes, We All Need A Kick In The Butt.

This list was designed to do just that.

Grab a sheet of paper, read through the list, and write down the first answer that comes to mind. You’ll need to think about some more than others, but if you can get through all 143 of them, you’ll have packed more introspection into one session than most people do in a year–or maybe their entire lives.

Ready… set… go!

What I Know About Me and The World

  1. who am I?
  2. what do I know to be true?
  3. what are three of my best qualities according to me?
  4. what are three of my best qualities according to my best friend?
  5. what are three of my best qualities according to my significant other (or ex)?
  6. what are my three worst qualities?
  7. who is my best friend?
  8. what excuses have I been telling myself to keep me from action?
  9. what does my name mean?
  10. was I named after anyone?
  11. when was the last time I did something for the first time?
  12. who was my childhood hero?
  13. what three words describe my current first impression?
  14. what three words describe my ideal first impression?
  15. when i’m wasting time, what do I like doing?
  16. i need to calm myself down. what do I do?
  17. i need to pump myself up. what do I do?
  18. i just woke up. what’s the first thing to cross my mind?
  19. what’s my favorite thing to do when i’m by myself?
  20. what makes me want to work out/exercise? if I don’t, why not?
  21. what, if anything, would I like to be responsible for?
  22. do I have any traditions? what are they?
  23. what limitations do I think I have?
  24. what would be different if I didn’t have them?
  25. when I meet a new person, what do I notice about them?

The Story So Far

  1. what’s the motto for this era of my life
  2. who are the primary characters in my story right now (besides me?)
  3. how are they influencing me?
  4. how am I influencing them?
  5. what do I want more of in my life to make me happy?
  6. what do I want less of in my life?
  7. when was the last time I lost track of time?
  8. what’s the most important thing to focus on right now?
  9. what’s my quest in life?
  10. what are three things that make me happy?
  11. what are three things that i’m grateful for?
  12. when was the last time I sang karaoke?
  13. when was the last time I helped someone?
  14. who has helped me get where I am?
  15. what choice do I regret in my life?

What’s Next for Me?

  1. where do I want to visit next?
  2. what one habit would I like to make?
  3. what one habit would I like to break?
  4. who would I meet, if I could meet anyone?
  5. what sport (extreme or otherwise) would I like to try?
  6. what natural wonders do I want to see before I die?
  7. what celebrations/festivals/parties do I want to attend?
  8. what parties do I want to throw?
  9. what will my funeral be like?
  10. what’s an adventure that I can have in the next 30 days?
  11. what needs to be in my will?
  12. do I want to get married? if married, do I want to get divorced?

Your Creative Side

  1. if/when I get interviewed on TV, who will do the interview?
  2. if/when I get interviewed on TV, what will we talk about?
  3. if I were going to build ONE of something, what would it be?
  4. if I could invent something to change the world, what would it be?
  5. would I rather write a book, tv show, or screenplay?
  6. what would this written work be about?
  7. what skill/hobby would I like to master in my life?
  8. what’s something that I collect, or would like to collect?

The Best In The World

  1. what is the best book I’ve ever read?
  2. what book should everyone else read?
  3. what book have I been wanting to read (but haven’t yet)?
  4. what is my favorite photograph?
  5. what’s my favorite piece of artwork?
  6. what is the best movie ever?
  7. what’s a classic movie I haven’t seen but have wanted to?
  8. if I could have ONE superpower, what would I choose?
  9. if I could become an animal, what would I choose?
  10. if I won the lottery, what would I do with my winnings?
  11. who is one of my current heroes?
  12. if a genie gave I three wishes, what would I ask for?
  13. what is the best food ever?
  14. what’s one food i’d like to try?
  15. what is my favorite color and what does it symbolize?
  16. if I were in a musical group, what type of music would I play?
  17. what is the best smell in the world?
  18. what time of day are I most productive?
  19. what time of day are I most useless?
  20. what’s my dream job?
  21. what do I do better than anyone I know?
  22. what are my biggest strengths/assets?
  23. what are my hidden talents?

The Darker Side of You

  1. have I ever committed a crime?
  2. if I were going to plan a heist, what would I steal?
  3. what’s the worst thing i’ve ever done for myself?
  4. what’s the best thing i’ve ever done for myself?
  5. What’s a secret that I’ve never told anyone (about yourself or about someone else)?
  6. what has been the saddest moment of my life?
  7. what am I afraid of?
  8. If I wasn’t afraid of these things, how would my life be different?
  9. Am I afraid to die? why?

What If…

  1. what is the thing i’re most proud of accomplishing so far?
  2. what will I regret doing or not doing if I continue living as I are?
  3. what do I want my legacy to be?
  4. if I retired today, what would I do?
  5. at what age do I plan to retire?
  6. given $ : 100, 1000, 10,000, 1mil – what do I do with it?
  7. i have to get a tattoo. what and where?
  8. what was the best part of being a kid?
  9. i have to change my name. what’ll it be?
  10. You have to write a letter to someone (that’s right, a real letter.) Who’s it going to? What’ll it say?
  11. what would I change about my appearance?
  12. if I could tell my past self anything, what would it be?

Deep Questions

  1. what parts of my life have become stagnant?
  2. what are my most appealing characteristics?
  3. am I doing something that matters?
  4. what am I doing to help others?
  5. what am I afraid of?
  6. who do I love, and what am I doing about it?
  7. am I taking enough risks?
  8. what’s a calculated risk I could take this week?
  9. what makes me angry?
  10. what was my most fulfilling/content moment?
  11. when am I proud of what i’ve done?
  12. what grudges am I holding?
  13. when do I stand up for myself?
  14. what path does my heart say I should follow?
  15. do I smile more, or frown more?
  16. what did I used to love doing, when I was young?
  17. what excites me about the future?
  18. where do I want to be tomorrow?
  19. what do I look forward to every day?
  20. when I daydream, what do I see?

Unlocking Your Passions

  1. what subject can I talk about for hours?
  2. what do I most enjoy doing for others?
  3. what are five experiences that gave me a sense of growth and fulfillment?
  4. what makes me smile?
  5. what’s easy for me?
  6. what sparks my creativity and gets I imagining?
  7. what would I do for free?
  8. what would I regret not having tried?
  9. if I could subscribe to only 5 magazines, what would they be?
  10. if I were stranded on a desert island with food, water, and shelter, what would I miss most?
  11. what external barriers are holding me back from pursuing my passion?
  12. what do people frequently ask I for help with?
  13. if I had to teach something, what would I teach?
  14. if I were giving a TED talk (18-minute presentation to a young, intelligent and influential audience), what would it be about?
  15. what are my values (http://thinksimplenow.com/resources/ThinkSimpleNow-Values.pdf)
  16. what challenges have I already overcome?
  17. what challenges are I now facing?
  18. if I could live in one place for the rest of my life, where and why?
  19. what’s on my bucket list (to do before I die)?

Error 0xc000007b when installing GitHubSetup.exe [fixed]

Just got this strange error when trying to install the new GitHub for Windows app. Here was the error message I received:

dfsvc.exe – Application Error
The application was unable to start correctly (0xc000007b). Click OK to close the application.

Frustrating, to say the least. I noticed the installation was opening Internet Explorer to the following url:

http://github-windows.s3.amazonaws.com/GitHub.application

So I tried opening that in Chrome. A file downloaded (GitHub.application) and I ran it. This produced an error log file, which I’m putting online elsewhere.

Strangely, after running GitHub.application and getting an error, I re-ran GitHubSetup.exe and it installed fine. Hopefully this fix works for you too! Leave a comment if it helped.

Local Hookup Apps Shootout: Reviews of the Best location-aware Dating Apps [2012]

I’ve been playing with a variety of “local meetup” / “flirt locally” apps — the type that let you post a pic and chat with people near your GPS location on your smartphone. There’s some pretty consistent features between the different apps: You get a profile pic, you get a profile. It shows you people near you. That seems to be where the similarities end, though, since they’re all positioned a bit differently. Read on for my reviews of the most popular apps.

One more thing: if you find this article helpful, please buy me a coffee (donate)!

Table of Contents

  1. Badoo App Review
  2. Skout App Review
  3. Flurv App Review
  4. Blendr App Review
  5. OKCupid App Review
  6. Plenty of Fish (POF) App Review

Badoo App Review

Thanks to an advertising campaign in New York (and likely other cities too) Badoo has definitely got the mind-share when it comes to GPS dating apps. Because of this there are a LOT of users on the site, which is certainly a good thing! Overall, it’s definitely worth a try. Everyone on Badoo seems a little bit tentative, but that’s not  too much different from the other apps here…

Like: plenty of users. slick interface.

Dislike: no pic messaging. mediocre filtering options.

Skout App Review /
Flurv App Review

As far as I can tell, Skout and Flurv are the exact same app. I’m not sure how that’s allowed by Apple’s App Store, but apparently it is.

I found out about Skout from an article saying several sexual assaults had been linked to the app, so I downloaded it. Yeah, I’m creepy like that. Unsurprisingly enough, Skout/Flurv have shut down their “teen community” as of the time of this writing. Attempting to keep a teen community clean and safe is a tall order indeed — I’m not surprised they shut it down.

Like: A lot of users on the service. Better filtering options than Blendr. Best photo-sharing options of the bunch. Multiple pictures per profile.

Dislike: somewhat confusing app — too many features. App wants in-app purchases to buy points to unlock stuff like “see who checked you out”. Lots of users speaking gHeTtOsTyLeeeee~~~ and other forms of poor English.

Blendr App Review

Blendr is like a Grindr for straight people… almost. The main difference is that everyone knows Grindr is for … well … grinding. Blendr users are a bit more tentative, and that seems to confuse the purpose of the app.

My friend Rick Tastic made an observation about the different types of girls on this app:

Although each girl on Blendr is obviously different, for the most part each falls under one of 3 basic categories:
1) Pics – These girls literally just want to get off via exchanging erotic pictures… my dick is all over that app at this point as a result of not initially realizing this, but don’t take that to mean I actually give a shit because my dick is awesome.

2) Hook Ups – These girls are genuinely interested in meeting/fucking in real life, it just takes a while to warm them up before they’ll be willing to give out their number. They’re still willing to exchange sexy pics though.

3) Connections – These girls are looking for something a little deeper than just a hook up, whether it’s a FWB situation, dating, or just friends. They’re down to meet up, but respond best to being treated like actual human beings as opposed to “I wanna put my dick in your mouth” which would work well for me with Pics girls and ok with Hook Ups girls.

Like: girls that wanted to be on Grindr, but couldn’t, are on Blendr. Easy to share photos or locations. Girls fairly receptive to messaging.

Dislike: only one picture per profile. Not enough users on the service (it’s still pretty new). Advertised as “a new way to meet new people” — not for hooking up. Therefore, most users aren’t necessarily looking to hook up, although some definitely are.

OkCupid Locals App Review

The first app to add “locals” to a (straight) dating/meetup/hookup app (see my original post on OkCupid Locals) With OKC and POF we’re getting away a bit from the ‘local hookup’ type of apps since there are full profiles and ‘compatibility scores’ and whatnot.

Like: many cute girls on the service, detailed profiles, multiple pictures

Dislike: I don’t like that it comes with the assumption that it’s for “dating” and not “hooking up”. (I’ll try to use less “air quotes” as we go along here…) I also don’t like that I can’t send a picture from my camera roll — only take a new one. It’s slower than other apps to message multiple girls — too many different screens to go through. Finally, you can’t send a message to start chat from the “locals” feature — only click “let’s meet” and if she’s interested she can message back. Mobile messaging has issues — if you leave the message screen it deletes your message (so you can’t reference her profile or previous messages)

POF iPhone App Review

Plenty of Fish is apparently a bigger site than OkCupid, although both are free–this has advantages and disadvantages. There are plenty of users, but you’ll have to sort through more users to find the worthwhile ones.

Like: Again, LOTS of chicks to choose from, nice features like who viewed you, matches, “want to meet me?” and a favorites section. Profiles with multiple pictures.

Dislike: Creating an account is pretty painful — two full screens of info before the pic upload and then a survey after! The mobile messaging has issues. For example, you’re in the middle of a message, and you want to reference something on her profile, leaving the message screen deletes the message entirely (on Android). Balls.

Conclusion

My favorite apps so far are Skout and Blendr, in that order. I don’t have a lot of experience with Badoo yet, so it’s possible I might change my mind about it and add it to this top tier. However, picture messaging is really fun and that’s a big lack IMO for Badoo.

If you found this article helpful, please buy me a coffee (donate).

DrinkPacer App Review

I read about this app on Hacker News — the developer was talking about starting his own business, trying to build a passive income stream. I had already seen the similar Caffeine Zone app, so I immediately searched for DrinkPacer in the App Store. $0.99? Well, considering that costs about the same price as NOTHING YOU CAN BUY AT A BAR, I quickly rationalized the purchase.

Trial by Fire Round 1: Birthday Eve at the club

My thought process went something like this: “Oh, cool, I got this DrinkPacer app. I should try it out. Hmm, disclaimers and warnings, click through those and ignore, ah, here’s the good stuff!”

The settings for “I want to get” are these:

  • Relaxed
  • Tipsy
  • Drunk
  • HAMMERED!!@!

A word to the wise: watch out for the “hammered” setting. It does not fuck around. Being as it was going to be my birthday at midnight, that’s what I picked.

Everything started off pretty well — we had some drinks at my place with the crew, including drinking some caffeine (which I was also tracking — gotta get in the caffeine zone!) Before we left, I took a couple shots which should put me solidly into the “hammered” range. It did not disappoint.

The problem was, I quit using the app once I was inside the club. preferring instead to just order another drink whenever mine was empty. If I had followed along with what it told me, I would have probably been less drunk — which would have been a good thing. Just the same, lesson learned.

Don’t set this thing to “hammered” unless you really mean it. For reference, a 160 lb. man would have to drink 6 shots with no break to touch the bottom line of the “hammered” range.

What is the “Without hangover, I can drink” setting?

After I dealt with my hangover and started to mess around with the app a bit, I realized I didn’t understand what the function of the “Without hangover, I can drink…” setting was. I had initially thought it affected the processing algorithm, but it turns out that’s not true.

As I understand it, whatever you set for “I can drink…” becomes your “limit” for that night, and the app shows you as “X over limit” when you cross it.

IMO, this doesn’t entirely make sense, since hangover is really determined by your water consumption (and other factors), not the total of drinks that you have.

Since I figured this out, I leave that setting on zero, which is counter-intuitive, but at least the app doesn’t whine that I’m over my limit that way!

Trial by Fire Round 2: San Diego Birthday Adventure

Since I pretty much got destroyed by using this pacer the previous night, I decided to play it safe and set it to “tipsy” the following night. Turns out that “tipsy” is basically keeping yourself mildly drunk for the entire day. It’s not entirely unpleasant, but you will need to drink slower than you expect.

On the bright side, when you go over the limit on the “tipsy” setting, it’s still a pretty pleasant drunk experience since you’re falling into the “drunk” range. Also, it gives you some fun warning messages:

 

 

Alex’s tips for using DrinkPacer effectively:

  1. Keep your drinks logged every time you finish one drink or start a new one.
  2. Set the “without hangover” to zero. No limit = no “over limit” messages, which are just confusing.
  3. Set the meter to “tipsy” or “drunk”. Not “hammered”!

Conclusion

Overall, this app is definitely worth your 99 cents. Especially if you’ve read this whole article, you’re probably a professional drinker. The app itself costs the same as the standard tip on a cheap beer, and you can use it over and over. One night of staying in the “drunk” range and you’ll understand.

Suggestions to the Developer of Drinkpacer

One suggestion I had for improving the app would be to recognize that drinks aren’t always consumed all at once and take this into account when inputting a drink. For instance: a beer is generally drank over a period of 10-20 minutes, which could affect your drunk level (versus chugging a beer all at once).

Overall, I use the app as a rough estimate of how drunk I am, and I do appreciate its simplicity (only one button for entry, which makes it easier if you’re drunk).

More importantly, it would be nice to see ALL of the drunk-levels on one bar. Sometimes I’ll set the meter on “tipsy” and end up continuing drinking, and I get concerned because it yells at me. Basically, I’d like a frame of reference for how far over the line of “tipsy” I am.

I think that for anyone who’s purchasing this app, the “without hangover, I can drink” setting is pretty much useless. I was concerned when I was over the “limit”, but ended up with no hangover. Regular reminders to drink water or other advice (pace yourself, eat food) when entering drinks might be more useful for preventing a hangover.

It would be nice if the app remembered my settings, but this is more of a nitpick.

It would also be cool if I could see a graph of my drunkenness after a night on the town. And I think it’s a one-man dev shop, but how about an iPad version that lets you track you and your friends’ drunk levels? That’s sort of a pie-in-the-sky idea, but hey, that’s what I do here.

How to Upgrade your Jailbroken iDevice to the Next iOS Version

I keep getting hung up on this, so this post is as much for me as it is for you. These are the steps for how to upgrade an already-jailbroken device to a new iOS version, preserve your Cydia apps, as well as restore it with all of your legit app-store apps and music and whatnot.

Tools:

  • iTunes (probably the latest version would be a good move)
  • Jailbroken iDevice (duh)
  • iDevice USB cable
  • OpenIPSW
  • AptBackup
  • Jailbreak tool — RedsnOw or Absinthe (I read Redmondpie.com to keep up to date on this stuff)
Steps:
  1. BACK YOUR SHIT UP
    Seriously. Plug your iDevice into iTunes and right-click it and make a backup.
  2. Use AptBackup to preserve your list of Cydia apps.
    There are some paid options too, but this one is free and good enough.
  3. BACK YOUR SHIT UP AGAIN.
    This time, iTunes will preserve the list of your Cydia apps that AptBackup makes.
  4. Use OpenIPSW to download the correct IPSW file for your device on your computer.
    Actually, you could probably do this as the first step since it’ll take a while to download.
  5. Restore your device with iTunes, selecting the IPSW file you downloaded.
  6. Don’t restore from the backup yet
  7. Re-Jailbreak your device while it’s freshly-restored.
  8. Assuming your jailbreak went well, you can try restoring from your iTunes/iCloud backup now.
  9. Once you’re jailbroken and running happily and all that, install AptBackup again and restore your Cydia purchases

YMMV. This worked for me last time (4.3.4 → 5.0.1), and hopefully it’s going to work again this time (5.0 → 5.1.1)

Removed multiple posts from category, fixed contact form

I was (am?) having an issue with my RSS Syndication plugin (FeedWordPress) where it put my posts into two categories even though I explicitly told it to only put them in one. An hour and one hairy SQL query later, it appears to be fixed!*

Also, it seems like GMail was upset that I hadn’t logged in via the web interface in a while, so it stopped sending my contact form emails over SMTP. So I logged in and fixed that. Yay! You can contact me again now!

*: Although, my feed reader (Pulse) seems to have stopped publishing the RSS feed of the posts that I “star”, so there’s no new posts until I find a hackaround. And wouldn’t you know it, the “previous post” link at the bottom of the page is acting strange. Oh well, you’ll just have to deal with it for now.

Daily Reminders

I read a blog post recently that inspired me to take some action — specifically setting up reminders to take action. I wish I could remember exactly which blog it was, but I’ve tried to dig and been unsuccessful. If I find it, I’ll certainly update the post with the source.

Anyway, the author had several steps to ‘get off your ass and make changes, be awesomer’ (I’m paraphrasing, of course) and one that I did in the moment was set up some reminders. That was about a month ago, and it did have some effect on me. As of today, I’ve modified and updated the alerts I set for myself.

Here’s the reminders I currently have:

  • 12AM: What are you grateful for? (I usually go to sleep around then)
  • 12PM: What is the most effective use of your time and energy? (I’m awake and generally have started my workday by now, so this helps to refocus me on what’s most important)
  • 4PM Sunday: Review Asana, Evernote, and journal. (Trying to insert a GTD-style weekly review into my routine)
  • 6:30PM M-F, Sun: Meditate (simple breathing/gratitude meditation)
  • 7:30PM MWF: Work out get huge! (3 days a week. Usually between meals at this point which was an excuse of mine for not doing this before)

Previously, I used the Reminders app for iOS. It doesn’t work quite the way I wanted for a daily reminder, since it wants to “check off” the reminder, and makes a note of how many days ago the reminder was set. I don’t care when I set the reminder, and I don’t want to go to the Reminders app when the alarm is triggered, so now I’m using the Clock app with simple alarms. I just changed the “label” text to be the reminder.

Feel free to steal these alerts, add your own, and all that good stuff.

Updating our Amazon AMIs to EBS-Backed and Switching to RDS

We started running our site(s) on Amazon’s cloud for flexibility. Unfortunately, we started when the service was very young, and that meant it was difficult to back up our instances. We kluged a backup script in Python from someone else’s script posted on their blog. I just had a search and I can’t even find the source any more — this was at least two years ago.

So now, it’s my job to bring us up to the present. We had a problem where our server was crashing during the backup process — first, the backup would eat up any free space on our root device, which would then slow the site to a crawl as it got stuck at 99% cpu usage. Then, I would reboot the instance only to find MySQL was unable to start because the device was full.

Luckily Amazon offers a Relational Database Service which basically provides more robust/updated database servers in the cloud. I switched us to this service for our main two databases (a blog and a forum) and so far it’s running smoothly.

Now, I’m attempting to get rid of the last bit of vestigial, non-cloud-friendly technology that we’re using — filesystem backups and automatic AMI bundling. This requires creating a new EBS volume, formatting the volume, copying the entire filesystem to this new volume, snapshotting it in the AWS console, and then creating an image from the snapshot (also in the AWS console).

I got a lot of help from this blog post: http://thewebfellas.com/blog/2010/4/19/create-an-ebs-boot-volume-from-a-running-instance

as well as this gist on GitHub: https://gist.github.com/1004950

So that’s what I’ve been up to for the past little bit here. That, and all the debugging/troubleshooting/error-deciphering/guru meditation that goes along with it.

The good news is that once I’m done, our servers will boot faster, be easier to back up, and hopefully, more resilient.

 

photo credit: lrargerich via photopin cc

OKCupid App Adds Geo-Location. Is This Awesome?

Recently, there was much ado about an Apple patent that was filed, where it would allow users to locate people near them, and browse a small profile. In a personal discussion, some friends and I agreed that it wasn’t that likely that Apple would ever actually make something like this, but here they were patenting it just the same. I thought to myself, “this seems like something OKCupid would do.” Lo and behold, that’s exactly what they’ve done!

OKCupid first came onto my radar because of their excellent blog, OKTrends, where they occasionally perform statistical analysis of the people using their site. Everything from what you should send in your first message through what types of photos tend to get the best ratings is covered. They recently wrote an article called, “What if there weren’t so many white people?”

A friend tried to show me her profile, but since it was private to OKC users only, I ended up making one myself. The site is so well designed that it gently pushes you along to fill out your profile and answer match questions, all the while rewarding you by moving a bar from left to right labeled “Profile Completion”. Needless to say, my profile is now complete. Damn you, gamification! Continue reading “OKCupid App Adds Geo-Location. Is This Awesome?”

WebOS Is The New BlackBerry

HP made a large purchase last year — they bought Palm. And with that came Palm’s brand spanking new smartphone operating system, WebOS. Despite a rocky start thanks to under-powered hardware and battery-sucking early builds, WebOS has actually gotten decent reviews. Everyone who uses it seems to say that it’s a really solid operating system. And they say it with a glimmer of sadness, since it seems like nothing could unseat Apple as the king of Smartphone Mountain, nor Android as the rogue gathering an army and preparing to lay siege against the incumbent king.

And yet, HP might just have a fighting chance. Recently, they released the TouchPad, a tablet which in many ways rivals the iPad or the current favorite Android tablet, the Galaxy Tab 10.1. Critics will say that the TouchPad is crippled by lack of software, but they’re missing the point. Everyone has different needs from a smartphone, but remember when the iPhone didn’t have apps at all? It survived in part because, as 37 signals put it, “Ten Apps Is All I Need“. Do those basic apps well, and most people don’t need much more. Pretty much every app that you want to use is made to work with Mobile Safari, and should work fine with WebOS’ browser, which also runs on WebKit.

Did I mention it already has a customized Facebook app/web layout, something which even the iPad doesn’t have? Or that it has its own Skype client? Because it already has both of those. And that’s why HP is going to take the scepter of “business tablet” away from RIM and their PlayBook. HP has deep pockets to promote this thing, and they’ve already started advertising on TV. It’s currently priced the same as the iPad, and while it may not be flying off the shelves, we can expect HP will drop the price around the holiday season and advertise around then too. Continue reading “WebOS Is The New BlackBerry”